meanies (:

Not sure.

mh... oki doki Q

Well, it wasn't the wrong thing to do.

Okay, I took another look at it and to decide whether you did the right thing or the wrong thing you need to figure out what was going through your head at that exact moment.

My guess is it had to be one of these two options:
A) You guys are lashing out at my friend and I don't like that. It makes me unhappy so I am going to lash out at you. Although probably not in those terms, if you went after them for the purpose and reasoning to get back at them for how they were treating your friend, then I'd have to say your reason shows that you were trying to hurt them, and you probably ventured into the wrong.
B) These guys are hurting my friend and I have to protect her because she's unwilling. Hopefully if I show them we're not weak they'll back down and leave her alone. So I will stand up to them for the sake of helping my friend. If you did it for this reason you are actually, in my opinion, just trying to help your friend so you're probably in the right. Sometimes bullies like that have to be taken down by showing you're not victims to their game.

You'd also have to be intellectually honest with yourself to find out what was going through your head. You can't try and pick the option that puts you in the right. And technically its possible that both were going through your head, so you'd have to find one to lean on. There is, also, probably other thoughts but these two seemed to be the ones that made sense to me and any others are probably offbranches of these, in my opinion.

Noffense to you at all whatsoever, GL, but since you did ask did you do right, my opinion is you were probably going a little more with option A. My opinion on this is because you did talk to them a little bit on the rough side, and though that could of been a show it makes you seem more like an A. If you were in the B Mindset, I might suggest in the future instead of throwing tough talk just say, "Hey, do you mind not being rude to my friend here? Okay? I'd really appreciate it if you laid off." Same message, but to be honest I've seen people who can say that and sound extremely intimidating no backsas indeed. So as I said, in the future if you were a B, try that instead of the trash talk.

The other reason you seem a bit more of an A is that you went against your friend's wishes. That just makes it seem more out of anger than out of a willingness to protect your friend.

By the way, I'm not trying to make you feel guilty or trying to make you seem bad, I am just giving my opinion. Given the situation I'd most likely of done the same thing, or at least something similar. So don't feel bad, it was a tough issue. This is what I think. ~ Q

woah, Q, youre really good at these stuff *smiles* hah, i think youre right. i was absolutely more of an A ^^; *Thinks* .. but im good with being an A, actually.
the same thing happened yesterday and my friend said she didnt like it becasue they would probably go after us. i said they would probably go after me, not her. because im the one who have said things to them, so i was okey with it, becasue i didnt want to see them being mean to my friend. *shurgs* so i dont really care if she gets mad, just as long they dont act like bitches to her. i know that she will get pretty hurt if they keep doing it.

SickSelfishSycho wrote:Well, it wasn't the wrong thing to do.

oki doki SSS :P thanks for your thought (:

GL wrote:woah, Q, youre really good at these stuff *smiles* hah, i think youre right. i was absolutely more of an A ^^; *Thinks* .. but im good with being an A, actually.
the same thing happened yesterday and my friend said she didnt like it becasue they would probably go after us. i said they would probably go after me, not her. because im the one who have said things to them, so i was okey with it, becasue i didnt want to see them being mean to my friend. *shurgs* so i dont really care if she gets mad, just as long they dont act like bitches to her. i know that she will get pretty hurt if they keep doing it.

Thanks ^_^

The second time sounds more like a B, to be honest. *Punns...*

quater wrote:

GL wrote:woah, Q, youre really good at these stuff *smiles* hah, i think youre right. i was absolutely more of an A ^^; *Thinks* .. but im good with being an A, actually.
the same thing happened yesterday and my friend said she didnt like it becasue they would probably go after us. i said they would probably go after me, not her. because im the one who have said things to them, so i was okey with it, becasue i didnt want to see them being mean to my friend. *shurgs* so i dont really care if she gets mad, just as long they dont act like bitches to her. i know that she will get pretty hurt if they keep doing it.

Thanks ^_^

The second time sounds more like a B, to be honest. *Punns...*

np

hm, mabye. ^^; but yeah, i still think im an A.

That's a kay! Well, glad you liked my analyses.

haha they were great! thanks again (:

hm, to be honest, on my opinion (since i'm not a good guy like q), then i'd say you did the right thing. because to me, you're just protecting your friend.

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okey mikel ^^ thanks for your opinion. :D